Enough & More….

A question was put to me last week. Something that has kept me thinking for a long time. And though exploring deeper into thought is a never-ending process, I thought that it is meaningful to share the insights I gained, through the Sunday Brunch, with my world. The question came through during a coaching session, where emotions were running high, and my client was able to make himself completely vulnerable. I see that as the most blessed stage for myself as a coach, as well as that for my client, who is almost ready to receive in such a state.

The question that opened the flood gates of thoughts for me, was a long one and was worded exactly like this. ‘For someone like me, who has always been able to achieve whatever I have planned for me. Why is it that I am not able to be satisfied, and always want more and more out of my life? How do I ensure that it does not get repeated in my life, and how do I break this cycle of raising new expectations?’

I heard that question, and I found a lot of familiarity with the concern shared by this client of mine. It was not the first time that I heard something like this from someone who I was coaching or even know in my personal life. Obviously in this context, for me in my capacity as a coach, I did what was most appropriate and helped the client to come out with his answers, through reflecting deep into himself. What amazed me was that the stuff he came out with, was so much in sync with what I also feel and think about this question at hand. That not only strengthen my own belief but also reaffirmed to me that amongst all our individuality, there are so many commonalities that we humans carry within us.

Coming back to the question of not being satisfied, and always wanting more and more out of life. My thoughts about this are very clear, and it is that both things are independent of each other, and the problem only occurs when we start to associate them together.

Let me pick up the not being satisfied first. Satisfaction or being dissatisfied is more about how we feel about something that we have or have not achieved. Satisfaction is about the sense of fulfilment we experience when we feel complete about having got or done something. It is only upon completion of a task or phase in life that we could gauge if what just passed by, gave us a sense of satisfaction or not. If we feel good about it, it makes us satisfied, and if otherwise, we might want to either try it again or chose to not be unhappy but still leave it at that. Satisfaction, or the opposite of it, is always related to one thing, and it defines how we feel about that which occurred or happened.

On the other hand, wanting more out of your life, is completely independent of if one is satisfied or not with what is around. I have known many people, who despite having achieved so much and being so satisfied with what they already have, still aspire for more out of their lives. And I also a huge number of people, who despite not having enough, and not being satisfied with what all they have been able to create, still do not feel the urge of seeking more from their lives. Some always strive for more, and then there are those who always think of having enough.

All these experiences have made me believe one thing very strongly, and it is that wanting more and more out of your life is not a bad thing, given you are willing to give it all that it takes. But it is equally important for us to feel satisfied and complete, with whatever life has offered to us till present. It is only when we feel grateful for what we have till now, we make ourselves and our lives much prepared for receiving and creating more than we may want for ourselves.

My client came to me with a life situation that according to him was creating confusion in his head and was binding him down. And though he went back with an exactly similar situation at hand of having achieved enough, I was so happy that what he carried back from the session with him was being satisfied with his current reality, coupled with his zeal to achieve more and more in his life.

I feel blessed that through my work, I can see people making huge strides forward in knowing themselves and meeting their core self. I hope that you also take some time out today and give present yourself a refection time to find satisfaction in what all you have and know what and how much you want from your life ahead.

Stay Safe! Love for all!