Create your own Happiness!!!

Last one week has been nothing else but every minute a re-affirmation of my belief that good times in life, do not only come to those who deserve it, but also agree to come to those who are determined to create them for themselves. There was not one but many instances which made see again and again that how happiness, and joy can be created intentionally, without waiting for things to become easy or pleasurable by themselves.

I have seen this numerous times in my own life and have lately shared my experiences with my clients on this matter too. Which has also made me come across many sharing by people, who have been able to create ecstasy in their lives, for which they otherwise used to depend upon destiny or some developments, that could trigger happy times. Though the reasons for such a thought process, and way of living can be many, but generally the roots of this kind of passive attitude and belief lay in our cultural orientation or ignorance of the more fulfilling ways of living.

I know for sure that the innate desire for each of us to have a happy that is adorned with a big number of happy moments. The problem lies in we accepting everything otherwise as our fate or blame it on the timing of things. Both the habit of putting blame on things not happening for us and taking refuge under the excuse of timing is what eventually becomes a reason for all the wonderful times evading us.

Even though most of the people are often stuck in this dilemma, the good news is that it is one of the easiest habits or situations to come out of. All that we need to do is to have a strong resolve, not mere bouts of desire that come and go as quick as water bubbles. Wanting to be happy is what each one of us experiences, but generally that desire is the strongest in times when things are not going well, and as soon as there are better times again, we forget about our want to create lasting happiness. The success to be able to consistently create happiness in our life, lies in being constantly aware that we need to keep on being mindful about it at all the times.

I have been trying to do this in my life and have been partnering with many of clients on the same journey. And the biggest thing that I have realized is that creating happiness is an ever-ongoing process, which must and should never end. I have understood the truth about our desire for happiness to be as sustainable as we expect our happiness to be. Yes, I still do falter many times, and still am unable to create an all-happy life for myself, but what makes me feel good is that every time I fail, and allow myself to be sad, the awareness and desire to be even better at creating joy, gains strength within me.

In this journey of crafting happier times for myself, I have come across barriers both from outside and from within me. At times it has been about situations and other people, who I have allowed to become the reason for unhappiness, and there have been also many occasions when I have myself been the sponsor my own grief. This has made me realize that caution about possible bottlenecks, must be practiced not only with things outside of us, but even within our own selves, even though we know of ourselves on the path of creating pleasure.

I do accept that it is an ongoing journey, but what I also know for sure is that the fuel that keeps us moving onwards comes through each success that we taste in creating happiness for ourselves. Our belief of being in charge of our contentment, enhances every time we are able to pull some moments of pleasure our way. I have seen many of my clients doing this consistently, and the more they walk on this path, the stronger becomes their faith in the process of being the curators of their own happy lives. I agree that life will keep on throwing many challenges towards us, and not every challenge we will be able to create into a success. But the only by-product of failure that stays with us and has the potential of creating another failure for us is the sadness that we attach to it and keep it safe and secure in our hearts and minds.

I hope that we give ourselves a chance to be an owner of our own experiences and commit to ourselves to be consciously and consistently creating happiness for ourselves, and not merely wait for happy times to come our way.

Big achievements start with small steps. A test run to be able to create happier lives, can start with creating a happier week for ourselves. I wish you a week that is filled with happiness moments, created by you!

Love! Ritesh