Holding On…Letting Go……

It seems like these are days when people have entered a zone of being comfortable asking me to elaborate on something that I speak about through The Self-Accessment Initiative, either through the daily thoughts, or the weekly shares of the podcast and blog. Yesterday also the same happened, though the thought was shared late in the day, it did not take even ten seconds and I got three questions from as many people, which were like each other. And it was all about the ‘LETTING GO’ part of the part, and I was asked to share further on the same.

I felt it was all self-explanatory, and so when I got into a conversation with one of those who had asked me to elaborate, he asked me specifically about how to differentiate if letting go is the right thing to do, or do we let go of things too soon also, when we can in fact stay-on and make a difference? 

Now having got the question right, it becomes so much easier for me to share my thoughts on it. Though, if we look at the question itself, I feel it has answered itself through the words in which it was asked. Yes, there definitely is a too soon and too late, when it comes to letting go. And both will not serve the purpose, just because one did not give things a proper chance, and the other went on even when there was nothing that was left behind.

I have personally experienced both kind of situations and have seen multiple such instances happening with my clients too. And my belief, which has developed through my own personal experiences and understanding in this, always has been that no matter how bleak it seems, if there is a chance to make a difference by staying-on, letting go should not be an option that is allowed near to you. No matter if it is about a relationship, or a task at hand, letting go, when you still could have made a difference, and created something magnificent out of it, should not be an option that you must allow to have a space in your mind. All our focus must be on making things work, because if it has still not got over, there is a reason behind it. Whatever we have been involved in, be it a project or a relationship, does not deserve even the thought of letting go, because of the wonderfulness that it can spring up for us, having seen our best resolute self being given to it.

I am all for acknowledging the issues and challenges that crop up, but the very fact that they are seen and offer a sense of discomfort, is a sign of some work that it demands from us. Where many of us go wrong is to overlook that it is the problem or the issue, that brought the discomfort. And rather than ensuring that we work towards removing the very cause of the unease, we associate that challenge to the relationship, or task it itself, and thus start looking at them as the reason of restlessness. A pause, and a resolve to address that which brought in the discomfort is what is required, rather than letting go of what is so significant for us, makes our lives the beauty they are.

So, when does one let go? How to know that it is not right to let go of something or someone? Yet again, the answer lies in the word itself. We are not talking of pushing-away things or people here, the words we have used is let-go. And the only right time and reason to let go, is for and when something or someone, who wants not to be there anymore. Letting go in such situations is like, just opening the fist and allowing that which wants to slip away, slip away. Something that had already started its away journey from you, and it was being held-back, rather than staying on.

In a nutshell, Letting go should not be an option, for something where you see that you have a chance to allow something being created. Likewise, letting go is not an option, for something that does not exist at all. The answer to what stage with something you are in, lies within. All that is needed is for the question to be asked in all sincerity and truthfulness to oneself.

I wish and hope, that we all do not let go of that we have got for a reason and know of that which does not exist anymore.

Stay Safe! Love!