Goodness within!

There are always two sides to each person. This is one statement that I have heard innumerable times in my life. And the number of experiences that I have had which prove for its validity and depth, are nowhere less than that.

I have seen that we humans are in a constant endeavor to see ourselves as becoming more of the good we have, than living the not so good side of ours.

The intention has nothing wrong in it. And it is very much understandable and relatable that we all aspire to have a good, nice view about ourselves.

What I have experienced is that there are multiple ways in which people try and create this shift as a reality for themselves.

One obvious way is to do everything possible and making sure that slowly and steadily, the good side of oneself is allowed to become dominant and the not-so-good side is kept dormant as much as possible eventually allowing this practice to develop into a habit and for this habit to then make us what we become.

Then there is another way which I have seen people adopt to make themselves believe that their good side is becoming the dominant one. And that is to simply manipulate themselves into thinking that their not-so-good side is making way for the goodness, by itself.

This ‘by-itself’ is where the manipulation of the self is hidden. It is nothing but a mere suppression of one’s own awareness of the reality of self and denying yourself a chance to make that happen which leads to goodness within and around.

The third way which I have experienced in a lot of people is that of shifting focus from one’s scope of improvement to that of other people’s shortcomings or not so good in others.

We even name it as the ‘Devil Within’, as it is very convenient to brand the not-so-good of others, especially if it allows us to keep ourselves in good light.

And then there is one more way, which somewhere gets connected to the previous one, but goes a step further. And that is to start preaching others on how to shift from their not-so-good side to making the goodness in them the dominant one. This makes us feel good about in a dual manner, one by looking at the evil inside the other, and secondly by making ourselves the messiah of bringing goodness to the world.

My multiple experiences tell me that the only right way to succeed and be meaningful in this to focus within and being brutally honest with oneself. It is in this brutality that we give ourselves the best chance to allow for our tender goodness to show up and light up our world.

Let us not be afraid of seeing the evil within us. No matter how big or small, how dominant, or dormant, how active or passive it is. The only thing we need to know is it is something which resides within is. And anything that is within us is always in our control and can always be made to exist as we want it to be.

Another important thing to know is that this journey is not the smoothest one which you will embark on. In fact, this might be the hardest and most tiresome experience of your self-improvement journey. You will find yourself having moved a bit and then stumble upon, and at times you would have gained quite a ground and be in goodness for decent enough time, and again the evil will show up and make you falter.

Do not loose heart. It is through these challenges only, that the charm of you becoming all about goodness can be welcomed. So be at it and allow yourself the tenderness to stumble and rise again.

Much Love,

CoachRB