Love – Let it lead!

Relationships! No matter what type and kind they are, have their own share of ups and downs. Especially when it comes to love between two individuals (I mean the kind of love between a man & woman, who we may call spouses or partners), things seem to become even more complicated.

I am talking about this because just yesterday I had a very intriguing conversation with a dear friend about what she has been going through with respect to her own feeling of love for someone.

It was a detailed conversation, which lasted for about an hour, and obviously, without getting into the minute details of what was shared, I will simply share what I feel can be of benefit to anyone who wishes to be mindful of their own relationship with their spouses or those they are in love with.

Developing feelings is possible at any stage of our life. No matter what age, role, or position in society is, till we have a heart beating inside of us, we are always vulnerable to start feeling love for those who we feel connected with.

Despite a lot of suffocation being felt, a lot of uneasiness around, and becoming unsure about being right or wrong in allowing for her to develop those feelings, all I could sense was that there was still immense respect and love, which this friend of mine held for the man she talked about.

My own understanding of relationships, and my very own experience with them, allowed me to share my thoughts with her, more so in the capacity of a friend than a coach.

All I did was listen to her and allow her to express her own thoughts and views, about whatever she was feeling at that moment. And I suppose more than what I said, it was about what she spoke which made her understand what is it that she wants to do in such a situation.

We both found ourselves sharing a common ground where allowing for and acknowledging the feeling of love and respect, was not in question. It was very and heartfully accepted that there is immense respect for the feeling of love, that is there. Love is not what is making things difficult. Love is not what is creating any challenges. Love is in fact allowing her to live more beautifully. Love is what is allowing her to smile differently. Love is what is making her get in touch with that part of hers that she had started to believe did not exist anymore.

Such was the acknowledgement of love, that to me felt as if love itself came to its rescue and made sure that nothing in conversation, could question him. Love stands for itself and ensured in a very subtle way that it is not looked at any differently than how it deserves to be seen.

With things being settled around love, the focus shifted to that which was creating the difficulties then. And just because there was the clarity of perspective now, the troublemaker too showed up on itself.

It was the ego playing. It was the sense of uncertainty that was creating all the havoc. It was the feeling of misunderstanding which was creating all the turbulence.

I was not surprised at all!

I have seen all of these, the Ego, the uncertainties, the misunderstandings, and even more such demons, ruin the peace of many individuals and destroy many beautiful associations between individuals. Individuals who would have become a blessing to each other, not necessarily by playing an active role in each other’s lives, but by being there. And unfortunately, these evils come in and are even allowed to do what they are best known to do.

Anyways, all that was needed in that conversation was clarity on these two things. And knowing the evolution and growth path this friend of mine is on, I knew that it would not take her much time to put her sight on the best and the right thing to do in her situation.

The way the conversation ended; I was pleased to know that she clearly saw the most appropriate way to take things forward. Being me, I am still leaving room for a few more conversations, as I know that merely having seen the way, does not mean that one can start to walk that path immediately.

There will be stumbles, and there will be contradictions. All that I hope she sees at that point is, that it is nothing but our conditioning which tries to put love in a place which we think is the only meant place for it to be. What assures me in such a situation is that love, when it develops in us for someone, does not mean that it leaves us. Love very much stays within us, and it knows how to take care of the place and the person it resides in. So eventually through all the thick and thin, and beyond all the turbulences, if love is allowed to lead, it will bring peace and it will bring calmness to the one who is beholding it.

All our relationships, go through their own journey, which is full of smooth paths and not-so-comfortable potholes, what we must allow is for love to lead us. Love which will surely not harm the ones we love, and which will by default take of us, because it is us who are the origin of it.

Let us create relationships which are filled with love and understanding.

Let us allow love to lead us and others to what is best meant for all.

Let us create happy and fulfilling lives.

Much Love,

DeepcoachRB