Author: coachrb

Life has been quite interesting in the last few days. My world of life coaching yet again gave me the privilege of coming across varied human behaviour. Yes indeed, we do see different people behaving in different ways, but it gets intriguing when the same pattern is seen in one individual with a high level of frequency of change. The last ten days or so made me come across multiple such instances, and as always, I know that for me all this happens for a reason.

Though I am still not sure, what is Life’s agenda behind this, one belief of mine that I have been practising in my life for quite many years got strengthen even more in all this. And that belief is ‘To not be guilty about having a change in emotions, feelings, thoughts, perceptions, etc.’ I have, not sure how many years now, practised honouring my momentary thoughts and feelings, and not rubbish them just because they show a deviation from what I was earlier.

Several of my experiences with people had shown me the restlessness that they create for themselves by resisting a change that they know is happening within themselves. The very fact that there is a departure from how they were earlier, gives them enough a reason to not have a rendezvous with the new them, they are becoming. The denial of one’s truth, just because it does not look and feel the same as its previous version, has made many lives remain unfulfilled. It has always surprised me to see, how comfortably a lot of people can deny them their inner truth. It is astonishing to come across the kind of reasons and excuses, and worldly arrangements that one can cite to ensure that their truth does not knock at their minds and hearts.

In my understanding of the whole situation, one common factor that binds it all the shame of not being constant. The feeling that the evolution of thoughts is considered as instability of the mind. The perception that frequent change in feelings and emotions are signs of a flickering mind. 

Wow, what an irony! A life phenomenon that has the potential to bring immense fulfilment in our lives, is left to stay unattended and even starve without the deserved attention. 

I feel blessed to be in a position where lately I have been able to help people discover their ability to honour their truth, and the change this truth goes through as they move ahead in life. Several of my conversations have had this realization, as the basis of getting to the solutions that people are seeking. It is so rewarding to see people understand that the change that is resisting, has already happened in them. This knocking at the door is not by a guest, but by a member of that house itself. It is no outsider who is wanting to come in, but an insider who wants to make her presence felt.

Last week has been sacred. I have witnessed a couple of those people who I partnered with, in their journey, have started to honour their evolving selves. They no more are allowing anything in them to stop them from expressing their reformed thoughts and feelings. What makes me happiest is that they have resolved to go through any initial hiccups that they may face in the form of sarcasm and directed statements. I have seen it happen earlier, and I am just waiting when very soon even they are going to be astonished by the realization that it is not very difficult for those who matter to us, and to whom we matter, to acknowledge and embrace our most authentic and evolving version.

I sincerely hope to be able to help this transformation happen with many more of those who get connected to me and to even those who do not, because of my belief that every fulfilled soul helps makes another live accomplished.

Love to all! Stay safe!

“Sometimes it is the journey that teaches you a lot about your destination.” This quote by a famous pop-singer holds complete truth for how my past few months have been. For whatever it was meant to be, something in me awakened me to work more diligently towards my calling. This prompted me to take the journey within, to understand deeper about what is it that I want to accomplish.

And since then, though it has already been about 20 weeks or so, not even day goes past without mesmerizing me about what a great world it is that we all have inside of us. The magical abundance and gifts of the universe that rests inside of us, are protected so deep within, that even we as the beholders of it do not get to see them unless we awaken our consciousness to this new dimension.

My journey continues and this one I am sure will never end. What it does though, is to make me aware of my magnificence and abundance and strengthens my belief that it is the same awesomeness that each one of us holds within us that makes is the world such a beautiful place to live in. All the wonderful achievements of humankind are a creation that originates from this wonderful core of all of us who make this our place to live and thrive.

The last three months also gave me several opportunities to help others, connect with their deeper self and thus get familiar with the wonders that they are holding within themselves. And though it felt like an almost impossible task to almost each one of them, barring a couple of them, everyone felt a sense of awakening, having connected to their core. Each time this has been a moment of ecstasy yet pious, as it felt like having held one’s newborn version, which is so tender and pure, yet never experienced.

Though it did create a moment of awe, my belief in the core got, even more, strengthen each time I saw people not getting surprised by what they found within themselves. Not even once there was a sense of being astonished because of disbelief. Instead, it indeed was pleasing and also came with a sense of stillness, as it was the most relatable version of self that each of them saw. 

There was never any adjustment needed for anyone to embrace who they met with the inside of them. The natural affinity and joyous acceptance were a testimony to the fact that it was this version of theirs that makes them complete. All those who have been a part of this process of self-discovery with me, have been living a much-fulfilled life, with a sense of purpose. And this what re-affirms my belief, time and again, that the human BEING has unlimited possibilities of DOING what they eventually want to.

Knowing the greater reason behind our very existence helps us align our thoughts and actions to answer our calling. I feel blessed to be seeing these aware beings, not only create more and more success but also celebrate their success in a manner that is much more fulfilling and complete than it has ever been. 

My journey of self-discovery continues and shall never end, and it is this journey through which, I feel blessed to be able to assist others to find and connect with core-selves, that I see myself reaching my destinations several times in a month. What I do is then turn every destination, into a milestone and carry n further with my journey. And it is this awakening that helps me to partner with so many beautiful souls, in their endeavour to connect with their core.

Love to All! Stay Safe!

“The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.” There has never been a time in my life when I have not found myself agreeing with this saying of Albert Einstein. And the last three months have been no different. Certain things that have happened, acted to only strengthen my belief in what I call ‘Change is Life’.

When I decided to take a break from my regular blogs, ‘The Sunday Brunches’, I did not anticipate such a long interval before me getting back to writing again. But then as life happened, I allowed myself a bit more time to gather experiences before I get back to expressing again. And here I am writing this at 3.50 am, just at the break of the dawn, when my inner voice asked me to pick up my iPad, instead of hitting the bed and re-connect with all those who appreciate my sharing.

What I feel like sharing with you today is my thoughts about the respect this word ‘change’ deserves. More often than not, I have seen change either being resisted or being ridiculed for holding the potential of upsetting the norm. Maybe at times creating the storm. But what it deserves is being honoured and respected for making possible, what each of us is today. 

The last three months gave me numerous opportunities to experience change from various dimensions and thus to understand why it is treated, the way it is. And almost every experience of mine made me understand that the only reason why change is resisted is that it does not always adhere to expectations. The result that any change brings, is not always what was assumed or calculated while allowing the change to happen. And it is this loss of control over the consequences, that leads us to want to control the change itself.

The work that I do, blesses me with numerous experiences from a huge number of great life stories. Many of them in the recent past have added to my belief about the importance of change. I have met people who are desperate to bring about some change in their life but are stopped by either their self-doubts or by the inhibitions of others around them. I have seen such people feeling suffocated because they are not allowing change to create the magic that their lives deserve. 

The very fact that resisting change to occur in their ‘doing’ world is disturbing them, is proof that some change has already happened in their ‘being’ world. I feel highly satisfied that having helped such people embrace their being without any inhibitions, has further helped them experience the magic of doing that change has brought in their lives. These people today live a more empowered life and having allowed change to flow through them, can embrace the change that happens around them in others now. Having accepted change as the best thing that can happen to any life, I feel proud of seeing these people helping others understand the magnificence of allowing change to happen.

The best part about change is that we do not need to do anything special to create it. All that is required for us to do is not to do anything that becomes a roadblock. It is the most natural way of life and every life is able enough to handle its journey through all the changes. 

Being mindful of how we live is always a more meaningful way of living our life, and one question that can help us be aware of our equation with ‘change’, and thus help us be fulfilled individuals is, ‘When was the last time, when I accepted a change to happen both within, and outside of me?’ Answer to this, sow the seed for a life which flows and glows in all its magnificence.

Stay Safe! Love to all!

Last week has been quite an intriguing one as it brought me quite a few questions that I feel I need to find answers to. Questions that came forward from my interactions and experiences with my clients. Questions that popped up because of the actions and reactions of the people that I surrounded myself with. Questions that originated from my own thoughts, the ones which I call as the ‘Soul Queries’.

These are the sort of days that I feel blessed to be living through. Times that make me yearn for more learning. Times that create in me an urge to know more. When the desire to walk by myself and churn my thoughts to address the various question marks that have cropped up. In general, I feel the festivities have just knocked on me, and they now want me to celebrate this festive season in my own way.

One of the biggest and more important concepts that clouded my mind was about Truth. I have come across a lot of instances where the word ‘truth’ has been misused and mishandled for no reasons whatsoever. That does not mean that I would ever justify any reason as a valid reason for compromising on truth. Especially having lived a journey, where even I have tried to take refuge in the concealment of the truth, by citing various validations to myself and others in the past. But having left that thing in the past, I am glad that I do not find any merit in giving it any space in my life anymore.

As a matter of fact, rather than having to allow any space in my life for the untruth to stay and thrive, I prefer now to move away from such a place. Anything or anyone, which can allow me a though to take refuge behind an untruth, does not find my company once I become aware of its intent or capacity.

Being truthful and not allowing oneself to be manipulated by reasons of why one chose to take help of a lie, is a place which we all must strive for ourselves to reach. The life we have got has a much grander purpose than the simple acts of breathing, eating and working to create a living. No matter how high we climb on the ladder of success, it will never be an elevated life if we fail to present ourselves with space which allows us to be completely honest.

Having had these thoughts about the truth surrounding me for quite a few days now, one question that engulfed my mind was the association between untruth and low self-esteem. Every iota of thought and mindfulness that I could give it to dig the answer to that from within brought me to just one conclusion that the basic foundation on anything that is not truth lies in our own reduced image of ourself. There is no situation and no individual that is big enough, for us to feel small and compromise of our integrity. Instead, what we do is to reduce ourselves to a smaller size and a weaker version of ourselves that finds all suitable justifications to cling on reasons to lie or hide the truth.

This journey to have nothing but the truth that surrounds your life starts with the toughest first step. And though we are outstanding creators of reasons as to why we could not speak the truth to others, what we need to do first is to identify and thrash all and any justifications that we give to us to not being truthful to ourselves. This first step of being completely honest with oneself about oneself is the first, the most difficult and the most time-consuming in our journey to the freedom that truthfulness holds. And do we need to, or actually want to take this journey forward also or not, is what we can decide once we cover this first step. 

Not all lives decide to take up this path to liberation. But for those who aspire and resolve to fight it out, all I wish to say is that every failure you meet on this path is success in itself.

As there are many more such questions that float around me, I feel the need to take a journey within and explore and interact a bit more with my current self. I have a feeling that it is going to be a long process this time around, but I am confident of the wonders it will spring up for me, which I would love to spread and share with all the lovely people. I thus, decide to put on rest THE SUNDAY BRUNCH for the next few weeks. Till we connect again, stay happy, stay safe and enjoy the festivities.

Love to All! 

INWARDS! A word that has been clouding my mind for the past few days now. Am I surprised by this? No! Is it anything unusual that is happening? Definitely No! Actually, I would have been surprised had it not happened to me at this time. 

After months of hectic schedules and being surrounded by various kinds of people for so long, I knew that the need for a journey within would grip my mind and thoughts with such intensity. Neither does it come as a first-time phenomenon, nor does it make me feel like questioning myself as to why it is happening.

Connecting with oneself is such an important aspect that once we get consciously aware of the same and start to practice it in our life, it becomes addictive and as important as breathing in and breathing out. My profession which blesses me with interacting and understanding a lot of people by getting to know their core has made me realize that the misconceptions about this ‘connect with oneself’, is what creates most of the issues for many of us today.

I meet a large of people who seek help for various issues that bother them, and in most of the cases, the problem seems to be originating from somewhere outside of them. While presenting the issue, it is always the case that oneself is looked upon as the receiver of something which is originating from an outer sphere and is creating issues with their own life. I would be wrong if I say that I can help everyone find a solution to their problems, but I take immense satisfaction in knowing that creating the right understanding of the problem is what I have been able to achieve with almost each one of them.

The process may differ for each one of them. The path taken may not be the same. But the eventual destination, which is a better understanding of the issue they have, is almost the same for everyone. 

I see the eyes sparkling at times, and many times they get teary also. Still, the reason behind all of that is a realization and understanding that for whatever happens outside of us, how our core reacts to it, is what that occurrence becomes for us. And more often than not, our reaction to what occurs outside of us is an unmindful, as we are of what is inside of us. It is my strong belief that the quality of our connection with ourselves defines how we allow anything outside of us to connect with us. 

To understand and handle the various aspects of our life, what need first is to understand we are made up of. What are the core values and deepest thoughts that drive us in life? What is it that makes us what we are? What influences our choices and reactions? And to get answers to all these questions, we need to create a habit of taking these journeys within. It is as important to work through the nitty-gritty of the world outside, as is to take a holiday from it all and go deep within to explore the inside universe.

Connecting and reconnecting with oneself is a blessing that we all deserve. The only important thing we need to know is that this blessing does not come from anywhere else but has to be a self-created privilege that we all must consciously gift ourselves at desired intervals.

I for one, need this fuel of ‘travelling inwards’ very often, and I have a strong conviction that this what keeps me going, and helps me to assist others in seeking help with their lives too. Understanding and acceptance of the fact that our awareness of what we are made up of, is what leads to our ability to understand what constitutes all that which we encounter in life, makes our life a better lived one.

Love to all! Stay Safe!

Evil! A word which generally makes us look outwards whenever it comes to mind. Something which many of us find very difficult to accept or acknowledge to be associated with oneself too. The best we usually do is to give it much mellowed down names like shortcomings or weakness or things that we can do better, etc.

What does that actually talk about us? Does it really need to be re-looked at to be better acknowledged? Well, I truly feel yes! Though there is no standard to what we can call evil, and what we should just be calling something which is not so good, understanding what is not correct to its actual intensity is very important.

I have always believed that be it good or bad; if we do not accept it in totality with its true magnanimity, we stand a risk of not living it fully. Just like every good thing, which can only make us as happy as much we celebrate it. Everything which is not that good or is dangerous must also be understood in its totality to address and do necessary corrections.

We all have heard many stories about how evil prevails in the world and how it has affected society and humankind for ages. What also is common in all those tales is how the evil has finally been defeated and crushed by the good, and happiness and prosperity prevailed. Though there cannot be any question on the strength of goodness and the power it has to crush any evil of the universe, there is one important element that is mostly overlooked in all these narrations.

My understanding all such stories, and even more my own experiences of my life and of people that I meet, is that what also plays a bigger role in the crushing of the devil is the ignorance or denial of the presence on evil within itself. And this holds as good for all the stories I have heard from the past, as it is for the life that goes on today.

In my professional, I am blessed enough to be able to meet people who seek help in various aspects of their lives. They all come to me because they desire to have a better life for themselves and wish to take charge to get over with their struggles. If I call it a little differently, my clients come to me with the evil that engulfs their lives and wants me to help them be freed from it. 

Yes, I am indeed happy to help them fight this battle and come out victorious, but generally, the war is not the one which they assumed they would be fighting while they decided to come to me. More often than not, what we end up defeating is the evil that resides within us. My role ends as soon as I can make them understand the issue in their lives, in its totality and the truest form. And it is this understanding which makes them win over it, in lesser time than they ever thought it would take.

Many of them eventually ask me that how could they not do it all themselves earlier itself? Why did they not understand the problem like they did after meeting me? What is it that made the solution come so easily to them? And the answer in most of the situations is similar. It is the way and place we started to look at the whole issue. 

The problem which we call evil was being looked at as being in someone or something other than us. And it is this one usual mistake that makes the evil look much bigger and much stronger than what it may actually be. Anything that is not in our domain is more difficult to control or manage, in comparison to what we have within us. The first step, which is of taking ownership by identifying our responsibility in the whole matter is generally the most difficult one. And it is this difficulty which makes us overlook it so easily and try to control it from and at a place which we do not possess. 

As soon as we shift the focus from outside to within, and find that source inside of us, which is evil, we become much more in control of killing the devil and come out victorious. This evil can be the ill thoughts, wrong actions or even triggered reactions. Whatever it may be, it is easiest controlled when we acknowledge and understand, our own responsibility in it, and thus take charge of commanding our lives.

We must always remember that acknowledging that which is NOT GOOD with us, is the start of creating all that WHICH IS GOOD in our lives. 

Love to All! Stay Safe!

Strength! A quality that each one of us wishes to possess. And though I strongly believe that be it physical strength or mental strength or even strength in character, each one of us holds some form on strength, though it may vary in its intensity. 

The last month or so has challenged me by putting me on a test as far as my personal strength is concerned. And if I use ‘hard’ as the word for the difficulty level of these tests, I feel I will be going easy on evaluating it. Anyways, what I wish to talk about is not what life presented me with in the last few weeks, instead what I learnt from all of that.

There is no doubt that with all the challenges that came forward, it did test me on the mental strength. What I also realized that no matter what name we call it, Emotional, Mental, Physical, Character, etc., each of these is finally about what we are made of. One of these personality traits get affected, and the other one cannot remain untouched.

Yes, it is indeed is a blessing to understand how strong you are concerning these various aspects of your own self. What is also very important is to know how to use these strengths during our lifetime. It is equally critical to be consciously aware of your potency level, and not become doubtful when it comes to making the best use of your strengths.

The best use of our strengths! Yes, that is what is most important in all of this. Some sincere introspection and an honest indeed connect with our within, will help us understand what we possess, what it does not tell us is how to use what we hold. 

I have seen and known many people who take pride in showing their strengths, and in fact look for opportunities where they can display the basket of beautifully decorated strengths that they either got through inherited genes, or they actually worked hard to practice and acquire, and make it a part of their personality. The irony is that I had also seen the very same people, not being able to use those same very strengths when it was actually needed. Those were the times when they faced some challenges in life, and life presented them with a chance to make the best use of their strengths to come out victorious. Sadly, a huge number fails when it is most needed.

That creates this thought of what is the best use of our strengths? What do we do with these gems in our personality? Do we just use them as a piece that helps us glorify ourselves for audience displays? The reply most obviously is ‘NO’. Our strengths are not meant to be used for a public display or to polish our egos. We are blessed with them so that they can be utilized when we actually need them in life. They are supposed to be put into use when the challenges of life are out there, wanting to test what we are made up of.

Strengths are not meant to be used as swords but are best honoured when we use them as shields to protect ourselves in the times of adversity. Our strengths should not make us someone who creates wars. They should instead make us into warriors, who defend every attack that come their way, to not be defeated and thus come out winners.

It is a good habit for all of us to reflect and understand what strengths we hold in our personality. And once we become aware of these gems, we must introspect with complete honesty to understand how we use them in our lives. 

Love to all! Stay Safe!