Being & Doing – saiwithcoachrb

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Each day, every day you offer parts of yourself to the world through your actions or what can also be defined as ‘your doing’. Taking that routine walk early in the morning, feeding the stray dog, and engaging in a deep conversation with your friend – all your big and small actions are examples of your doing.

Most often, what you do is constructed by the world as who you are. But have you ever tried to ask yourself that if ‘your doing’ defines who you are, then why are you called a human being and not a human doing?

A glimpse into the dictionary and you will find that the word ‘being’ has deep meaning to it. It refers to existence, a higher source of wisdom, a vibrational spring of energy that is above and beyond actions. Thus, human being means that you are the divine existence in human form.

This awareness can be empowering because it establishes ‘your being’ and ‘your doing’ as two separate entities. While ‘your being’ is your higher self that encompasses your core values, innate gifts, and life purpose, ‘your doing’ is a powerful and creative tool that you can use to offer ‘your being’ to the world.

When your ‘being’ begins to sponsor all your ‘doing’, the buffet of possibilities that you can relish in life expands and makes your existence a delicious experience. The way you interact with your environment and connect in your relationships with yourself and others, then, shifts from the ‘doing-to-doing’ zone to the ‘being-to-being’ zone.

This also means that you can create a fulfilled life for yourself and live to your highest potential when the person you show up as through your actions or your doing is true to and in complete alignment with your being. This awareness nudges you – every step of the way – to acknowledge and to take ownership of the fact that you can experience happiness, contentment, abundance, and personal success only if your ‘doing’ is in synchronicity with your ‘being’, only when your actions are guided by a higher sense of self and purpose.

This awareness also helps you answer those difficult questions: How can I live a life filled with magnificence? How can I create success in everything I do? How do I inspire growth and purpose in my relationships? How do I live my life to my highest potential? The answers rest in getting ‘your being’ and ‘your doing’ in sync.

Partner with Ritesh to meet, embrace, and envelope your true sense of being which in turn positively enlarges your circle of doing. Allow him to help you balance the rhythm between all that you are and all that you do.

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Going through life’s struggles and tribulations, while fulfilling the various roles expected out of me, I had lost touch with myself. I had started feeling like a dead fish floating in the river of life.

I believe that it was divine providence that brought me in touch with Ritesh. The very first time I interacted with him, his sincere and non-judgmental approach to issues inspired my confidence.

His sessions helped me immensely. As a coach, Ritesh gently yet firmly held a mirror in front of me which helped me reconnect with the lost me – the positive, lively, happy Me. This entire process has been immensely liberating for me and has brought in tremendous inner peace. I believe Ritesh’s coaching has enriched and touched not only my life but also through me the lives of those around me.

Swagata Mukherjee

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Homemaker from Kolkata

What and Why of life coaching

When do you feel your best, happiest self? Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and invest a minute to ponder on the question. Do you hear an inner voice trying to speak to you?

Where does this voice originate from? Could it be possible that there exists within you something truly powerful and magnificent that knows the answers even before the questions are asked?

What would a connection to such a powerful and magnificent self feel like? How would it change the course of your everyday life? Would it make you a fuller person?

Life coaching is a guided journey that you embark on to come face to face with your powerful and magnificent sense of self. This personal expedition to happiness and fulfilment is based on the premise that there throbs in each one of us an evolved being, a divine source, our core that has innate wisdom available in the form of our life purpose, core values, and natural talents that are unique to us.

Once you learn to identify and make use of this treasure-chest stored safely in your core, you begin to unravel for yourself a life of abundance, well-being, and emotional prosperity. It provides and nourishes you with the resources that you require to not only solve your day-to-day challenges (such as how do I work towards a promotion, how do I become more honest in my relationships) but also receive higher intelligence on some of the existential seekings of your soul (such as how does my work fit in my larger vision of life, how is my higher sense of self manifesting in my relationships).

The more you begin to use your innate talents and core values to align your actions with your powerful magnificent self, the more truly and in entirety you begin to accomplish your life purpose. This rhythm that you, thus, create between your core and your actions – your ‘being’ and your ‘doing’ – empowers you to:

tune-in and tap-in to the frequency of achieving your highest potential.
experience the joy that comes along with honouring your life purpose.
choose life-affirming beliefs and attitudes that are true to your own unique value system.
celebrate and acknowledge your natural talents to contribute more of you to the world.

In a nutshell, life coaching is an introspective process that encourages you to open up and receive the infinite wisdom from the deepest and highest version of you in order to help you live your best, happiest self.

And when do you feel your best, happiest self? Every time you cherish and live by your core!

How is life coaching different from mentoring and counselling?

While you may have heard the words ‘coach’, ‘mentor’, and ‘counsellor’ being used interchangeably with one another, the approach that each one of them takes to help an individual varies significantly.

A coach is someone who partners with you ‘in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires you to maximise your personal and professional potential’. The intent of a coach is not to limit you with their own beliefs of which areas of your life you should improve and how, but instead their goal is to empower you in defining your own desired area of growth and then connecting with the answers within to stimulate transformation. Therefore, the way of the coach is not offering you advice or suggestions but prompting you with a series of questions and tasks. The coach perceives you as a ‘whole’ being with a strong core where all solutions are found and pathways of new ways of being in the world are developed.

A mentor is usually an experienced professional who is believed to have seniority and more knowledge over the individual he or she is mentoring. A mentor does not really look at fleshing out answers and solutions from within you. Their goal, instead, is to share with you the knowledge they have gathered as a result of their expertise. Therefore, the way of a mentor is to define goals in consensus with you and then give you a plan of action to achieve them.

A counsellor is a medically certified professional who can help you deal with mental health and personality issues. It is important to remember that ‘while coaching can be therapeutic, it is not therapy’. It is only a counsellor who has the expertise and the authority to handle an individual with a mental health requirement. The way of a counsellor is based on medical models and treatments.

Needless to say, all three approaches are useful, and have a specific purpose to serve. Having a clear understanding of what you are looking for in an engagement with a helping professional can support you in deciding which one of them you should work with.

Who Needs life coaching?

Based on half a decade of experience in the area of coaching, Ritesh believes that there is no life which cannot transform and become fuller and happier through the means of life coaching.

Yet, for the sake of convenience, the simple checklist given below can help you identify if life coaching is what you are looking for at the moment.

You wish to know what your life purpose is and how you can honour your calling.
You believe that there exists a higher consciousness within you and want to connect with it.
You want to discover your core values and your innate talents, and learn how to stay true to them in your life.
You want to enjoy an effortless rhythm between your ‘being’ and your ‘doing’.
You have immediate or far-sighted goals in mind that you want to accomplish.
You wish to mindfully contribute more of yourself into your relationships.
You want to break the shell and free yourself from patterns of thought that limit you from leading a happy and fulfilled life.

If you resonate with any of the above, working with a life coach can help you redesign your environment and nourish beliefs, attitudes, and actions that serve your core values and purpose.

Coaching for Shared Communities and Institutions

Breaking Patterns for a Breakthrough

We live on a planet which spreads across 510 million square kilometres in surface area yet, despite its massiveness, a mere 5 inches screen has made available to us almost all the information we need. That too in an instant of a touch!

Come to think of it – what is it in life that we cannot search over the web and find answers to? Almost nothing! Except the workings of our inner being, our core values, our natural talents, and our life purpose! The answers for those can only be driven from within which is why they become the key to success, achievement, and fulfilment in life.

Through his series of interactive group workshops that derive their basis from personal and social domains, Ritesh collaborates with communities, teams, corporate houses, and institutions that share a common goal. He works with these groups to help them integrate their core values, innate gifts, and life purpose in the actualisation of their shared vision.

These groups could range from students and teams working together in an official set up to emerging or established leadership and self-help groups trying to make a difference in the world.

Some of the themes around which the workshop designs revolve are

Aligning ‘Being’ and ‘Doing’: Creating an effortless rhythm between the values that the community or the institution stands for and the actions of the people who are a part of it to create unparalleled success.
Growth Mindset: Imbibing within all members of the group a balanced emotional space that helps them intelligently respond to situations and relate with others.
Remove the Box Approach: Expanding the possibilities for the members of the group by encouraging them to not think inside or outside the box, but rather ‘without the box’.

The workshops elevate the groups to:

Facilitate an environment where happy and fuller individuals work together.
Raise the bar of the shared vision through pioneering ideas.
Nurture individual strengths to take the process of collaboration to new pinnacles.
Build a culture that inspires trust and well-being in all.

Partner with Ritesh to lead your community or institution to new heights of success and to create a ripple effect of your highest intentions in everything that you do.

Coaching for Parents

A Celebration of Your Individuality in Parenthood

Sometimes, as parents, we believe that parenthood is about letting go of our own sense of being to create a fulfilled life for our children. We presume that parenting is a choice between either ‘us’ or ‘our children’. We assume that when we choose our children over us, we become perfect parents.

However, if we look deeper, we will find that this is a mere construct of mind. Our children do not need the so-called ‘perfect parents’. They need real parents who are in touch with their own needs and, as a consequence, are empathetic towards and aware of the needs of their children.

While material sacrifices may be required, starving our own soul of its purpose is less likely to help us raise happy children. It is important for us to understand that:

it is only by being a soulfully fulfilled individual can we raise holistically thriving children.
presenting our children with the best in life and giving ourselves a life filled with abundant possibilities can and must go hand in hand.

Being a parent coach, Ritesh partners with you as a confidante who helps you untangle the limiting beliefs and expectations attached with the sanctity of parenting. He works with you to facilitate an honest dialogue with your own authentic self and live truly to your innate values and purpose in life without letting go of the well-being of your children.

Reach out to Ritesh in order to reconnect with your sense of self and find an intricate balance between ‘you as an individual’ and ‘you as a parent’.

Coaching for Formative Years

Bridging the Years between ‘Too Young’ and ‘Too Old’

Years of formation, or what can also be called the youthful years of one’s life, are marked with crucial transitions. It is that time of life when we are wanting independence but needing security. It is that time of life when we want to express our opinions and have a voice but at the same time feel the need for recognition and validation. It is that time of life when we want our space but at the same time feel the need for making deep connections with others. It is that time of life when we want to negotiate and challenge authority with our parents but at the same time feel the need to be accepted and understood by them.

And as if all of these contrasts were not enough, it is also that time of life when our aspirations begin to shape. We begin to see ourselves as active contributors to our environment. We want to do big, be big. We want to take a direction in life that leads us to success. We want to find clarity, our inner calling, and a path that intrigues us.

Needless to say, it is that time of life that comes with a plethora of emotions and ideas which when not channelised have the power to become triggers of confusion but when well-channelised transform into opportunities for a life of purpose.

It is this higher path that coaching for formative years empowers individuals to tread on. This is how Ritesh works with the young:

Turn Emotions into Intentions: Ritesh lends a listening ear to the emotions, feelings, and thoughts of the individuals he interacts with; and then partners with them to flesh out meaningful intentions from these emotions.

Prune Intentions using Perspective: Once the intentions have been clearly identified, Ritesh offers an experienced outlook and perspective to these desires and works on pruning them for a more fruitful growth.

Transform Perspective into Action: Ritesh engages with the young to inspire action and to transform the perspective they have gained on their intentions into goals. He helps them set goals that are measurable and actionable.

Encourage Reflection and Introspection: Ritesh stirs and facilitates a process of guided reflection and introspection with the individuals he partners with on the results achieved from putting their intentions into actions.

Connect with Ritesh to help you walk through the labyrinth of emotions that accompany formative years and assist you to extract the best out of the gaps between ‘too young’ and ‘too old’.

Coaching for Life

Decoding the Answers Within

What each one of us is seeking in our lives may differ significantly from one another, yet there is definitely universality in the age-long saying, ‘What you seek is seeking you’. Sometimes a tiny nudge, a slight direction, and a fine balance between who you are and what you do is all you need to attend to what you are seeking.

As a life coach, Ritesh partners with you to achieve this ‘seeking’ by helping you connect with your most authentic self and align your ‘doing’ with your ‘being’. He supports you in manifesting the grandest vision and version of the life you want – and definitely deserve – by unleashing the wisdom within of your core values, your innate talents, and your life purpose.

Your core values are the qualities that originate from your divine or higher nature and that you are here to offer to the world. Your innate gifts are the talents, skills, knowledge, and personal capacities that you are naturally endowed with as a part of your higher self. Your core values, along with your innate gifts, help you fulfill your life purpose which, in other words, is something that you are uniquely qualified and imprinted to contribute to the world. It is the calling of your divine, higher self. Through his ‘Coaching for Life’ offering, Ritesh helps you re-turn to this authentic world of yours and use it to guide your day-to-day living.

While you engage in this inner work, Ritesh holds a safe space for you through:

Keeping in confidence everything you share with him.
Listening with a curious and innocent mindset of a beginner.
Acknowledging you at a heart level and with a positive focus.
Believing in your magnificence and your life purpose.
Assuring you his complete presence and authenticity.

Get in touch with RB to unveil and experience an empowered unfolding of your core that helps you accomplish the highest potential of your life.